Is it racist if you want to date only one race? Is it sexist if you want to date only one sex? And if the answers aren’t the same, why not? Cathy managed to confuse me here.
Personally, I just think some people are more capable than others of letting go of the physical. I can find beauty in any physical body, of any sex, race or appearance, if it contains a mind I care about. I occasionally feel strong physical attraction, and it does seem to follow a “type,” but it doesn’t really affect who I want to spend my life with, or even have sex with. I wouldn’t enjoy doing either with someone I didn’t emotionally and mentally relate to.
But I recognize that there are other people who can’t have a fulfilling relationship without that strong physical attraction, and there’s no way to force that attraction to be there if someone’s not your “type.” And type can include sex, race, and many other physical features. It can be painful for the people who are rejected for not fitting the type, but it does happen.
Speaking of attractive things, here are some very gorgeous presents for your friends and family, AND your lovers of any persuasion! You can’t buy love, but you can buy handy tools for expressing your love at quite reasonable prices! Books and Abby and Norma merchandise are still orderable for the holidays!
(Want an extra-special present? Email me at humanalien at gmail dot com. For a small extra fee for the additional shipping, and a few days of extra transit time, I’ll personally SIGN your book or t-shirt.)